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Sometimes I can’t even get over how much I hate my life
Chronic Illness Perspective:
- What You Say: "Want to go see a movie?"
- What A Person With A Chronic Illness Hears: "Do you want to drive 20-30 minutes which could triggers pain and headaches, hope we find a close parking spot because otherwise walking a long way will trigger symptoms like pain, dizziness, and fatigue, go stand in line for an undefined amount of time which could be too long for you to handle, sit in seats that are generally not supportive which can cause back/shoulder pain, and look up at a screen for 2-3 hours which could cause muscle or joint problems, and then do the rest of that again to get back home?
- What You Say: "Do you want to go grab dinner?"
- What A Person With A Chronic Illness Hears: "Do you want to go try to consume food ,and may or may not need to inconvenience the person you're going with by trying to find a place that can serve food safe for you to eat because of allergies/intolerances? And sit in likely not comfortable chairs/booths for what could end up being a much longer time than you are able to sit in said chairs/booths without causing major pain that will last until you get home and possibly into the next day (making it hard for you to accomplish the school/work/family things you need to do tomorrow?) Also, want to drive/ride in the car that may or may not be comfortable and may make your chronic pain worse, which could also last into the next week?
- What You Say: "Do you want to go to this concert?"
- What A Person With A Chronic Illness Hears: Do you want to go spend an extended period of time walking and standing, which will increase pain and fatigue possibly for the next few days, (meaning you won't be able to get out again until you recover from this,) and be surrounded by likely over-stimulating noise and lights of a busy venue, plus driving to get there and back?
- What You Say: "Do you want to go to this party?"
- What A Person With A Chronic Illness Hears: "Do you want to go socialize with a group of people who probably won't understand or be willing to understand why you are: constantly trying to find a comfortable place to sit (which, by the way, there might not be at all, meaning you might be in extreme pain the next day or few days,) why you aren't eating/drinking what they are because you're "allergic," why you seem tired, or why you have to leave early if your symptoms become too much to handle while there?
- Moral of the Story: If we say Yes, know we're probably sacrificing a lot of energy/recovery time that we need for school/work/family for this, and don't judge us when we try to make some of it easier ie. not walking farther than we have to,or hurrying through stuff if we're in pain. If we say No, it's not because we're "lazy" or don't want to hang out with you, we just might not physically be able to go.
- (Bonus: What You Say: "You go to class/work and doctors appointments, why can't you come out with us too?"
- The Answer: Because we NEED to go to class and work and doctors appointments, and we already miss too many days because we are sick frequently. So work/school and doctors have to be our priority, and as much as we would rather make social life a higher priority, it just isn't always possible; we need our energy for the things that are absolutely required, and we may not have any left over.
LIFE HACK: if someone you know suffers with chronic pain and complains of an especially bad ache, cramp, or flare, don’t be a patronizing asshole and reply with “aren’t you always in pain?” or “how is that different from every other day?”